This week, I heard the LORD say that we should all throw our stuff into the pile together and just run with it all. Yesterday, Jonathan called me to say that Shalaine brought up the same thing. It was a confirmation.
I called Laura last night and told her. I had asked her to pray about all of this. She wanted me to wait until she could get to know the Hinshaws.
I met with Rick Mann today. He gets this from the prophetic angle. He said move ahead. I called Laura to tell her that I was moving ahead.
Then, I got convicted when I was back in the office. I had called Jonathan to let him know that we would move ahead.
Well, that conviction had me. I texted Jonathan to let me know what he thought about all of this. He texted right back that he was just praying about this.
He sent me this note:
Hi Buddy,
Because I love you and only because you asked!
First off, The whole topic is irrelevant until the day comes to actually sign the docs.
Look at this…
Mary had a WORD from God and she knew that it would come to pass, but if she would have went around saying God told me this and God told me that, she could have made it very hard on herself. Mary was wise enough not to go knocking on doors and telling them she was giving birth to the son of God.
- Keeping our mouth closed and our heart open comes only through maturity in Christ.
Read the story and you’ll see that she didn’t even try to defend herself to her husband – she trusted the Holy Spirit to work and the Holy Spirit visited Joseph in a dream and confirmed the Word. That’s what trusting God looks like –
Not that Jesus wouldn’t have been born, but that Mary would have had a very hard time, much harder than just being pregnant before marriage. Plus, by not trying to explain herself to Joseph by “playing the God card” (so to speak) when Joseph had the dream he knew it was from the Lord. He didn’t have any doubts, because Mary didn’t say a word about it.
When we give the Holy Spirit room to work –
He can make it work out better than we could ever imagine. But, when we force things or rush it, almost always it ends up hurting someones feelings.
WHEN NOT to speak is just as important as WHEN TO speak.
Here’s my thoughts – going back to this morning…
- Without a company even formed yet, there’ no need to ruffle feathers over something that takes time anyways. – Who knows – I leave the details up to God. What I mean to say is this: When you told Laura “We’re moving forward” – we actually weren’t. We can’t until we get Articles, CPA, and all kinds of other things in place.
- We must always allow time for the Holy Spirit to work on everyone’s Heart so no one feels bull-dozed. Some take more time than others, and that’s actually a good thing. It’s totally fine.
- God is a God of patience – He never forced His will on anyone while on this earth, nor would He do that today.
- I felt like a mountain of difficulty came out of something that wasn’t even doable yet…
- I hope that makes sense.
Shalaine says that by telling Laura “We and/or You” are moving forward, that puts Laura on the outside, rather than being an insider. Going back to the original company structure would simply require a Vote to move forward. Always telling people that God Said this, so I’m doing it, can hurt their trust in God. It would be better to just say that you wanted to make a decision and Laura would have a week or so to think about it – that takes the pressure off.
As husbands – it’s our job (our duty) to teach our wives and children how to have faith. We’re the head of the house, but that’s not a boss. It’s a teacher.
—> What can be learned if I’m always being run over because my partner hears from God and I just don’t get it yet…… Even if it does work, I’m still upset with you and “your God”. (you know what I mean) – Shalaine felt like this when I started first hearing the Lord!
My concern in this is that we all need to allow for things to happen (Grace , not Works) give the Spirit room. We should let God move and don’t force His hand on others. IT’S OK to sit back and know, to Be Still and Know. Remember, not everyone needs to Know what You Know. Running this thing into Laura was unnecessary at this time. I don’t feel like God was allowed to work in the situatio – I probably would have pushed back too to be honest. It would have been better to move forward without asking Laura than to Ask and then to disregard her opinion or thoughts.
Trusting God’s character is vital to walking in Faith. God doesn’t get angry with us for waiting on others – He doesn’t cause strife or division. Moving too fast is almost worse than not moving at all. Why? Because not moving hurts your growth, but moving too fast hurts everyone you slam into on the way.
Be blessed, go hug your wife and drop the entire topic until it actually needs to be discussed.
That might mean you have to wait until 5 minutes before you sign the documents to hear Laura’s OK. Until it HAS to be done, it shouldn’t be an issue, that’s my point. Trust God, he works all things out for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. Laura feels left out and a phone call won’t help that. She needs to be here, spend time with us and it could takes weeks to trust us – we all have to be OK with that.
THE BASICS:
Slow down man. Enjoy the journey. It’s not always about getting to the next level and the next thing. You need to give this to God, He put you together (You and Laura) so He’s not going to tear you apart. Tell God to deal with Laura. I do this all the time with Shalaine, works every time 🙂 Waiting isn’t being disobedient. – God gave me 6 months in the car business to come back around to what He wanted for me and I was, and still am, very happy and never feel condemned. Patience in others is a huge part of this walk!
James 5:7 – Be patient, as you wait.
Bless God.
Shalaine & Jonathan
Laura had just sent this:
I got your message and I just want to make you aware of a few things. I don’t support buying a car of any kind right now and especially not an old car. Jordan has made it clear that she wants to be relieved of some of her financial obligations and we have set the rule/expectation that to drive you must contribute monetarily. On top of that I would rather pay the 1500.00 from Scottish Rite and the 953.00 from having Jordan’s wisdom teeth removed first before collecting any more debt. And lastly, I still don’t feel that Jordan shows any gratitude for the luxuries in her life. So if the Lord spoke to you and said buy the car, he must not care about our debt and so I shouldn’t either.
What ever you do is irrelevant to me. I know that you will make decisions apart from me based on what you think you are supposed to be doing at the time, some of those decision will be good for me and some will not. God will be with me in both circumstances. So you are free to make what ever decision you are led to make. Don’t bother running it by my in the future if you really just want me to confirm your decision. If you are questioning what you heard there is a reason that God put me here to listen to you. Hoping all the best for us always.
Love, Laura
Laura Stein
lauramstein@gmail.com
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